Post by eccentric on Dec 1, 2015 20:34:22 GMT
There is likely to be a recurring, self-sabatoging pattern in the relationships of those who have not experienced secure attachment, they may have difficulty in staying connected with others or may have trouble letting go of unsuitable relationships. This can equally be the case in Therapy. It's a bit like ground hog day for people who have not formed an early secure attachment, they replay the dynamics that they experienced as infants. Until they reconfigure these unnconscious emotional patterns so they are doomed to repeat them in their future relationships. Inadequate early attachment tends to lead to that person seeking an attachment figure like a heat seeking missile and a therapist can often fit this role perfectly. When attention that is craved is given all is fine but if for any reason this is withdrawn this can be met with anxiety and terror. As a therapist it is important to be aware of this. A client may form an inappropriately strong attachment or conversely may not be able to trust the therapist.
From a therapy point of view attachment plays an important role in how the client interacts with others in they lives. Each client will have different strategies for regulating attachment distress and one or more of these strategies will be used in regulating emotions associated with close relationships therefore it is important to realise that the therapist is most likely to become an attachment figure. And as the client begins to become attached to the therapist, the therapist can begin to observe and experience first-hand these strategies and work with them to give new strategies.
From a therapy point of view attachment plays an important role in how the client interacts with others in they lives. Each client will have different strategies for regulating attachment distress and one or more of these strategies will be used in regulating emotions associated with close relationships therefore it is important to realise that the therapist is most likely to become an attachment figure. And as the client begins to become attached to the therapist, the therapist can begin to observe and experience first-hand these strategies and work with them to give new strategies.